Valentine’s Day can be a stressful holiday. There’s pressure for those in a relationship to buy the perfect, thoughtful, AND personalized gift. Not to mention the traditional gifts of chocolates, lingerie, and flowers! Whew, it’s easy to see how Valentine’s Day can overwhelm anyone. However, if you’re willing to leave all of that stress and the commercial pressures behind, we have another DIY and free gift idea: the gift of intimacy! We’ve gathered five tips on how to deepen intimacy between you and your partner. Not only will this bring both of you closer together, but you’ll also experience a much more fun and unique Valentine’s night!
1. Be Honest with Yourself
Before February 14, take some time to be honest with yourself. You can’t be intimate with someone else if you haven’t come to terms with your own insecurities. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been in a relationship for months or years, chances are you’re insecure about a detail of your sexual relationship. Take some time for self-care both mentally and physically.
2. Explore Fears & Desires without Judgment
Explore with your partner what motivates you. What turns you on? What is absolutely off the table? Listen with openness and curiosity. Don’t say whatever comes to your mind. Instead, take things in slowly. Be sure to create a dialogue that makes you and your partner feel emotionally safe but be honest with your emotions. Don’t be bullied into doing something you don’t want to do. A person who loves and respects you would never force you to do anything that makes you uncomfortable or unhappy.
3. Avoid Dependence
A relationship is composed of two people; however, it’s not up to your partner to fulfill you completely. Explore your own body so you can share what you like and what you don’t like. Don’t let your happiness depend on someone else. Instead, be able to satisfy your own emotional and social needs. This will make you much more confident and comfortable in your own skin.
4. Try Something New
You might be stuck in a rut and feel a longing for your partner to introduce something new. But the truth of the matter is, your partner is feeling the exact same way! It’s difficult to introduce something new. However, it’s estimated that the same chemical reaction that occurs when you fall in love, also occurs when trying something new for the first time. So go ahead and welcome the chance to try something different. Whether it’s adding a new toy or an exciting position, discuss it with your partner first to get the thumbs up, and then go for it!
This is the best advice we can give you. Tear down any walls or blocks you might have put up to protect yourself from rejections. You’re human after all! You have desires, imperfections and fears and letting them consume you won’t make for a truly intimate night. Instead, ignore all the commercialism of this holiday and focus on satisfying each other!
Couples may get caught up in the high expectations of Valentine’s Day but remember that celebrating a deeper understanding of each other is far more valuable. Intimacy is essential for maintaining a true connection with your partner! Plus it’ll drastically improve your sex life. So what are you waiting for? It’s time to open up and get intimate.