Free & Easy Valentine’s Day Gift: True Intimacy

Valentine’s Day can be a stressful holiday. There’s pressure for those in a relationship to buy the perfect, thoughtful, AND personalized gift. Not to mention the traditional gifts of chocolates, lingerie, and flowers! Whew, it’s easy to see how Valentine’s Day can overwhelm anyone. However, if you’re willing to leave all of that stress and the commercial pressures behind, we have another DIY and free gift idea: the gift of intimacy! We’ve gathered five tips on how to deepen intimacy between you and your partner. Not only will this bring both of you closer together, but you’ll also experience a much more fun and unique Valentine’s night!

1. Be Honest with Yourself

Before February 14, take some time to be honest with yourself. You can’t be intimate with someone else if you haven’t come to terms with your own insecurities. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been in a relationship for months or years, chances are you’re insecure about a detail of your sexual relationship. Take some time for self-care both mentally and physically.

2. Explore Fears & Desires without Judgment

Explore with your partner what motivates you. What turns you on? What is absolutely off the table? Listen with openness and curiosity. Don’t say whatever comes to your mind. Instead, take things in slowly. Be sure to create a dialogue that makes you and your partner feel emotionally safe but be honest with your emotions. Don’t be bullied into doing something you don’t want to do. A person who loves and respects you would never force you to do anything that makes you uncomfortable or unhappy.

3. Avoid Dependence

A relationship is composed of two people; however, it’s not up to your partner to fulfill you completely. Explore your own body so you can share what you like and what you don’t like. Don’t let your happiness depend on someone else. Instead, be able to satisfy your own emotional and social needs. This will make you much more confident and comfortable in your own skin.

4. Try Something New

You might be stuck in a rut and feel a longing for your partner to introduce something new. But the truth of the matter is, your partner is feeling the exact same way! It’s difficult to introduce something new. However, it’s estimated that the same chemical reaction that occurs when you fall in love, also occurs when trying something new for the first time. So go ahead and welcome the chance to try something different. Whether it’s adding a new toy or an exciting position, discuss it with your partner first to get the thumbs up, and then go for it!

5. Relax

This is the best advice we can give you. Tear down any walls or blocks you might have put up to protect yourself from rejections. You’re human after all! You have desires, imperfections and fears and letting them consume you won’t make for a truly intimate night. Instead, ignore all the commercialism of this holiday and focus on satisfying each other!

Couples may get caught up in the high expectations of Valentine’s Day but remember that celebrating a deeper understanding of each other is far more valuable. Intimacy is essential for maintaining a true connection with your partner! Plus it’ll drastically improve your sex life. So what are you waiting for? It’s time to open up and get intimate.

Sexy Valentine’s Day Idea: Make a Pleasure Box

This Valentine’s Day, we recommend you ditch the chocolates. Seriously, you might end up jeopardizing your significant other’s New Year resolution. Instead, get him or her a collection of naughty Valentine’s Day gifts that can truly keep on giving all year long. If you’re on the hunt for a fresh, unique idea we’ve got one for you!

Crank up the heat this February by crafting a pleasure box— a unique and delicious erotic Valentine. What’s a pleasure box? It’s a “prop” box filled with items that really hone in you and your partner’s sensuous side. The best part? You can gather most of the items right out of your home!

1. Begin by gathering a box or container of your choosing that fits on your bedside table. Carefully consider what your partner likes in bed and what your partner has hinted they’d like to try. You don’t have to have crazy expensive toys (unless you want to). We recommend choosing items that will entice the senses.

2. When it comes to sex, what we see and smell can really make an impression on our mood. Add a scented candle in your prop box to create a combo of scent and sight. Choose sultry blends like amber resin, cedar and sandalwood for a titillating night. If your partner prefers cleaner scents, opt for a candle made of jasmine and vanilla. The candle will also add stimulating flickers of light to the room. Contrary to perhaps your usual forte, consider leaving the lights on. This will really allow you to bask in the beauty of your partner’s body. Seeing your partner’s reactions will be a turn-on!

3. Add a playlist to whatever wireless device you use. Music has a way of transporting you to a specific time and place. Consider creating a playlist of songs that have become important throughout your relationship.

4. Now for the juicy part— touch! Running items of different textures across your lover’s body will be a truly yummy experience for both of you. Grab a silk scarf, a lone feather, an ice cube and a warming oil to add to your box. It’s important to remember to take your time and use these items slowly. Use different items on different parts of your partner’s body and gauge any visible reaction. Pay attention to his or her body movements and breathing pattern.

5. Lastly, consider surprising him or her with an aphrodisiac. From our best-selling Boner Toner for men to the raved about Klitty Booster, we have concocted elixirs for men and women that will improve the sexual experience for both of you. Remember to think out of the chocolate box this Valentine’s day and into the sex prop box instead!