The
winter season brings up a lot in our lives. The joyful bustle to celebrate
major holidays combines with the stress of buying, preparing, and dealing with
the chilly rain or snow. It all sort of just compacts and weighs you down
despite your best efforts to bask in the merriment of the winter holidays.
As the
temperature outside begins to dip, your body goes through several physical and
mental changes. You might feel sluggish or uninspired. You might be stressed
and overwhelmed. You might even feel a disconnect with your sex partner that
seems to creep up only as the days get shorter and colder.
What’s a
quick fix? Simple, it’s sex.
We’re
here to help you blast through the winter blues and heat up your sex life with
these five hot intimacy tips to keep
you hot despite the frightful weather outside.
Create a Cozy Space
Let’s get
real, not everyone has a cabin up in the mountains decked out with a
state-of-the-art fireplace and a cashmere rug on the floor. The good news is
you don’t have to have a cabin to create a sexy space. Choose an area in your
home that makes you feel good. If it’s the bedroom, change the sheets to your
favorite texture or fabric. Some enjoy the coolness of satin, while others
prefer the softness of jersey. Think of what your partner likes and splurge on
a great pair of sheets.
Your area should also be clutter- and technology-free. When you’re surrounded by objects that seem to exist only to take up space, it creates a block in your mind. Release yourself from that pressure and clear out nightstands or nearby desks from trinkets or electric knick-knacks. Instead, place some aromatic candles or natural essences to relax the mind.
Your area should also be clutter- and technology-free. When you’re surrounded by objects that seem to exist only to take up space, it creates a block in your mind. Release yourself from that pressure and clear out nightstands or nearby desks from trinkets or electric knick-knacks. Instead, place some aromatic candles or natural essences to relax the mind.
Take It Slow
We get
it, you’re cold and this might lead to a rush to get things over with. However,
we’re here to tell you to slow your pace down. For many people, winter means
vacation. If you are lucky enough to have a few days off from work, take this
time to really explore your partner. You don’t have any of those distractions
anymore and this is truly a special time to be present and in the moment. A
gradual, leisurely build also helps prolong men’s longevity and increases
women’s arousal. We call that a win-win foreplay situation.
Breathe & Caress
Foreplay
can mean a lot of different things to different people. Lost and unsure of where
to start? Begin by harmonizing your breath. Face each other and as your partner
breathes out, breath your partner in. Take their warm deep breath inside your
body, along with their positive energy. As you exhale, make a conscious effort
to reciprocate the same radiant desire. Synchronizing breathing and touching is
a sure fire way to heat up the entire body and increase lustful anticipation.
Sit in Yab Yum Pose
A hot tip
straight out of tantric sexology is
sitting in yab yum pose. After you’ve warmed each other up with breathing and soft
caressing, sit down crossed-legged. Have your partner face you, sit on your lap
and wrap his or her legs around you. Embrace. Continue your breathing as you
hold on to each other tightly. Really let your bodies come together and tune
into each other. Without saying a word, let your bodies demonstrate the
appreciation you have for your relationship.
Listen
When we
mean listen, we don’t just mean with your ears. Remain aware of your partner’s
physical reactions to your slow breathing, to your particular touch or overall
energy. Stay present and guide your consciousness up and down your partner’s
spine, between his or her heart and eventually make your way throughout his or
her entire body focusing on areas that he or she positively reacts to.